Help Save 6 Year Old  Aaliyah From Her Abusers

EDUCATE YOURSELF ON ABUSE AND TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK

       This page is dedicated to helping those being abused, isolated, threatened and silenced. Learn the early warning signs of an abuser even just by how they talk. Please do extensive research and have a  safety plan before leaving your abuser. Women and children are in the most grave danger at the time of escaping the abusers control. When the victim attempts to leave, the abuser feels a loss of his control over the victim(s), which leads to his twisted mind his idea of ultimate power and control is taking his victim's life or lives. Many women and children experience death threats and severe mental, physical, sexual and emotional abuse the worse during this period. After leaving your abuser, you won't only be up against just the abuser, but the enabling systems that protect them along with the people he has been grooming and manipulating around him to help him get away with his abuse. They are extremely manipulative and often can convince others to even participate in the abuse of their victims.  The abuser will always play the victim reversing his own behavior, thoughts, actions and core beliefs onto their victims. When dealing with an abuser it is crutial to understand what drives them to do the behaviors they do. Their core attitudes and belief system is always about control, power and entitlement. They believe they have power and control over you as an object that they posess. They believe they are entitled to treat you however they wish, whenever they wish and at whatever time they wish. An abusers favorite term is that their victim(s) are "crazy," "delusional," "vindictive," "mentally ill" along with a variety of other choice abusive names. These terms are the abusers attempt to isolate their victims from being heard or receiving any type of help that could help benefit the victims to escape the abusers control. Of course, then another more obvious reason that most people overlook is, it's just one more way to emotionally and mentally abuse the victim(s) by calling them these psychologically abusive names. If you simply watch every action of an abuser his intent will always be that of control. He calls you names to control you, he hits you to control you, he will rape you to control you, he will molest your children to control you, he will attack you financially to control you, control, control and more control. Educate yourself:

Great information from Lundy Bancroft: 

http://www.thelizlibrary.org/liz/understanding-the-batterer-in-visitation-and-custody-disputes.pdf

If you are being abused or have been abused it is essential you read these books by Lundy Bancroft:

http://www.lundybancroft.com/books.html

Look inside the book "Why Does He Do That?" at the link below:

http://books.google.com/books?id=xEZIpu3SVvcC&printsec=frontcover&dq=lundy+Bancroft&source=bl&ots=x4qwt7E5lQ&sig=wONacRVlI2jl0l3qMO9Kv216WTQ&hl=en&ei=-BH_S_6VM4zANr355Ts&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=8&ved=0CEEQ6AEwBw#v=onepage&q&f=false

UNDERSTANDING CHILD MOLESTERS

 by Eric Leberg  pg 86

Blaming the Mother 

"The offender often blames people other than the victim. Most often, the offender will try to blame his wife or the mother of the victim. He will blame her in as many different ways as he will blame the victim herself, because he knows that people are often more willing to accept blame against the mother or wife than against the child. He will accuse the mother in a variety of ways: "She's an alcoholic." "She's on drugs." "She is sexually frigid." "She was unfaithful." "She never showed any interest in me." "She's mentally ill." ""She's always depressed."  "She's always tired, she's too tired for anything." "She's violent. She battered me often." "She's hostile." "She's rejecting." "She's boring." "She's just angry because she was sexually abused." "She hates men." "She refused to satisfy me sexually. She left me with no choice, absolutely no sexual outlet!" 

The purpose of listing these blaming strategies is to let the reader know that when the sex offender tries to blame someone (you or someone you know), he is following a typical pattern that has been used by thousands of sex offenders before him. The  sex offenders attempts to blame others should be rejected. They are simply an effort to deflect attention and responsibility from himself."

As you read on the internet about Aaliyah's case you will see her abuser try to call anyone attempting to help her and her mother "delusional," "mentally ill," or "crazy." You will also see random, insane, creative stories created by the pedophile himself posting as different people to deflect attention and responsibility from himself and his sexual abuse of the child. We ask that you not lose focus on the true focus which is Aaliyah's safety and not further abusing the victims with him.

ANOTHER ARTICLE ON CHILD MOLESTERS

http://www.parmacityschools.org/safety/upload/UnderstandingProtectingChildrenMolestersPredators.pdf

WHY THE ABUSED PROTECT THE ABUSER: STOCKHOLM SYNDROME 

http://www.isaccorp.org/stockholm.asp

People find this situation hard to believe, but it is happening to children and their mothers across the nation. Parents and "professionals" need to be educated on abusers. If you are one of the women fighting this devil of a system, educate yourself with a few great books  called "Why Does He Do That?" and "The Batterer As A Parent" by Lundy Bancroft.  Also, "The Sociopath Next Door" might help you see how these manipulative abusers opperate and show you their outlook on life as they ignore every ounce of their conscience. If your abuser has progressed into an incest perpetrator, "Understanding Child Molesters" and "The Socially Skilled Child Molester" are both educating books. After you read these books you will find yourself wondering why these "trained professionals" don't understand these manipulative abusers. Hopefully parents and the public will educate themselves to protect our children since our "professionals" won't.  Abuse comes with a shame of silence purposely left by the abuser. We would encourage all abused to speak out and free yourself from the shame, for it is only the abuser's shame to carry. In doing so, it will break the silence of abuse which is why abusers succeed at what they do. Knowledge is power, please help educate others so it won't happen to one more precious child or  mother.